Beautiful Ring Boxes from The Mrs Box

Beautiful Ring Boxes from The Mrs Box

I have just purchased one of these beautiful limited edition ring boxes from The Mrs Box and wanted to share it with you because I am sure it will be something you will all love!
Yes, my engagement ring came in a ring box… but it was just a brown, wooden ring box… Lovely, but not ME. I really wanted something a bit more ‘pretty’ and definitely stylish. The perfect life long ‘home’. After all, doesn’t a diamond deserve style, over a manly box (don’t tell the husband!!).
SO anyway, I have been quietly coveting one of these STUNNING ring boxes for ages, and I’ve finally put my name down on the waiting list for the next order (the colour I want is still ‘coming soon’).
What I LOVE about these boxes, is not only are they a beautiful and timeless way to display your ring, but they photograph BEAUTIFULLY on your wedding day.
Oh I DO have a thing for a gorgeous ring box! Whether it’s vintage, hand made or elegant, they can photograph really REALLY well.
This is something I always suggest to my brides to consider, because in between  recording the natural moments of your day, I will also be photographing all of your personal details. These details will feel more important to you after the day than you would have ever thought. After all, they were what made your day feel unique, all the little thoughtful and creative touches.
This is where ring boxes can really lift your detail shots. On the morning of your wedding, I gather all of your beautiful stationary, jewellery, perfume and rings and I lay them all out and photograph them.
If you add a Mrs Box to the picture, it just oozes elegance and you will also make me a very happy photographer. I love pretty things and creating pretty beautiful images from your day.
If you want to have a look at their STUNNING range, have a closer look here, and let’s see if I can temp you to invest in one of these stylish new homes for that gorgeous sparkler!
Boys – if a proposal is around the corner (being close to Valentine’s and all) I promise you that your partner will love finding her ring in one of these!
P xx
All images used are via The Mrs Box Website, photography by Jose Villa

Pancake Day Recipe

Pancake Day Recipe

So, tomorrow is Pancake Day, and I don’t know about you but for YEARS I could never quite get the recipe right.
Oh, it’s easy, right? Just eggs milk and flour – whack it all in a bowl, start cooking… aaaaand then cue sticky, non flip-able, half cooked yukky mess. I always would end up with the dreaded first pancake that no one wants!

After years of just ‘making it up as I went along’, I realised that making good pancakes, the kind where the texture is spot on, is actually a delicate art! Following a recipe (in terms of measurements) DOES matter!
So whether you’re a savoury, or a sweet pancake lover, here are THE BASICS that will time and time again, get you a perfectly textured, flip-able and tasty pancake, first time around!
Makes 12:
Ingredients –     100g plain flour
                            2 large free range eggs
                            300ml milk
                            1 tbsp sunflower oil
                            Pinch of salt
Method –      Heat oven on a low temperature
                      Whisk together the flour, eggs milk and salt in a large bowl.
                       Heat a frying pan with a knob of butter or a drop of sunflower oil. Ladle                          in the  pancake mixture and cook the pancake on each side until golden.
                       When cooked, keep in the oven on low heat to keep warm as you make                        the rest.
                       Serve any way you want and enjoy!
PS – so what are you giving up for lent this year?!
Philippa x

Managing Difficult Guest List Situations

Managing Difficult Guest List Situations

Planning a wedding is one of the most exciting times of your life! Of course, with planning any event, there are natural stresses that can come with it. Believe me. I have been there and this year I plan to launch a wedding planning e-book to help guide you through as best I can based on personal and professional experience… But until I’ve written this (my 2016 goal!), let’s have a quick chat about one of the topics that cause the most common drama. The guest list – ah! Every wedding is different, whether that be the personal details of each individual couple, and also the number of people invited… Something that also varies between weddings nowadays is who is paying. Is it split 50/50 between parents, is it just the bride’s family paying, or are you (bride and groom) heavily contributing or paying for it all yourselves? This ‘I am paying card’ as I like to call it tends to be the one that’s thrown about the most when politically discussing a guest list, like its some sort of tactical game. A game that is so easy to get wrapped up in, and all the positivity and gorgeous reasons why you are getting married get over shadowed by the stress. Sound familiar? Don’t worry, It’s so easily done – I have been there too. I had a large wedding of 100 day guests with an additional 50 in the evening. Large in number – yes. But is it actually that large? Not really. 100 people is a pretty average amount in the world of weddings nowadays, where weddings are becoming bigger and on a larger scale. So, if 100 people means 50 people on each side (if you are playing fair), you get there pretty quickly. Even if you’re not even engaged, have a quick count of your family and friends in your head… I bet you get to at least 30 straight away without considering plus 1s and maybe even children!
As I said, you get to 100 pretty quickly, and that will be before the politics of a family member demanding an invitation for their daughter’s boyfriend who you’ve not met before, or one of the bridesmaids who awkwardly assumes their new boyfriend who you haven’t met get’s an automatic invite. Not forgetting the people who want their children there, despite you having an adult only wedding. You get the idea – it can quickly become a headache if not dealt with quickly and properly!
However, it doesn’t all have to be doom, gloom and stressful! Here are just a few of my top tips based on issues I have personally dealt with and hear all the time, on how to deal with situations such as these, and how to perhaps consider your approach and thoughts towards them…
My partner and I are paying for the wedding ourselves so naturally we are the only people who have a say on the guest list.
Yes and no. I think it is really important to be mindful in these situations, regardless of ‘who’s paying’. The people who may want to make a few guest list requests, even in this circumstance, will be your parents. You must remember that for a parent, their child’s wedding is just as important for them as it may feel for you. It’s a joyous occasion where traditionally they would be hosting and throwing a huge celebration for all those close to ‘them’ too. Of course, a modern wedding doesn’t always follow traditional etiquette anymore, and it’s completely understandable that some guest list requests your parents may make, will seem absurd to you. Always try to keep a level head, and imagine how excited they must feel. If you are paying for the wedding yourself and feel strict on the guest list, perhaps suggest to your parents, that if they are happy to contribute in paying for the additional people they want there, then you are happy for them to come.
I had a similar scenario with my wedding guest list, and ultimately for me, the most important thing was that as long as everyone I wanted there was there, then I didn’t mind my parents request to invite a further 10 people. It is your wedding day, absolutely, but imagine how you will feel one day when you are helping your child with their wedding and how proud you will feel. You too will want to show off the day and invite your close friends to share it with you.
My parents/family/partner are pushing me/us to invite someone we really don’t like.
This is so SO hard. Believe me, I KNOW! When you are planning one of the most important and exciting days of your life, it is so easy to feel very protective of yourself and your wedding. There is not much to say around this apart from, will the refusal of inviting this person be worth the agro and stress you will receive in the long run? Will their presence really ruin your day? Your immediate and emotionally driven answer will of course be ‘yes’, I am with you on this. However, I promise you that it will make absolutely no impact on your day,
We had similar situations with our wedding. Not so much with people we truly disliked, but with people who we didn’t really know nor did we feel were important to us. In the end we agreed to have them there because it simply was not worth the stress. Believe me, when it comes to ‘wedding pride and wedding egos’, people like to drag things on for a lot longer than is necessary, appropriate and fair.
Do I remember these people at our wedding? Not really. Did they impact how I felt about the day? Not at all. I didn’t even notice/speak to them!
The bottom line is, be as realistic and as calm as possible. These situations are more problematic and more common with a larger guest list. Whereas a smaller and more intimate wedding will have an even tighter number and means that outlandish requests are easily forgotten because of other restrictions, mainly space related.
How to have THAT awkward conversation about plus 1s….
Oh this was tricky when we were creating our guest list. In the end we opted for this rule, which we stuck to at all costs:
If we have not met the partner, they will not be invited to the day, but we will extend an invite to the evening reception.If we have met the partner/husband/wife but only on a few occasions and we wouldn’t consider them to also be a good friend, they will not be invited to the day, but we will extend an invite to the evening reception.Plus 1s are allowed if a friend from a different circle will not know many people at the wedding.These rules apply to all, including those in the wedding party and family. No exceptions.
We stuck by these rules and we did get a couple of kickbacks from members of the wedding party and from family! The best way to deal with on the spot awkward questions is to be really honest and up front from the start. People may be a bit disheartened and possibly annoyed, but this is normally because they are unfamiliar with a) the expense of a wedding, b) the logistics of a wedding, and c) the general dos and don’ts with regards to weddings due to lack of wedding exposure/experience.
Awkward examples that can make a couple stress for hours like, ‘Tania and I are going to look at hotels for the wedding this weekend’. Or, ‘Since Josh, your cousin Laura’s (long-term and practically family) boyfriend is invited, does that mean my son can invite his on/off girlfriend who none of the family have met?’
Just be honest, very clear and TRY to move on very quickly. I can’t honestly say, try not to get stressed when these questions arise (as they are likely to), because I felt absolutely awful when we had to deal with these situations. The main thing is deal with it as quickly as you can, BREATH, and take a step back into your lovely world of pretty wedding dreaming. I also prescribe a long cuddle with your partner – remember why you’re getting married in the first place and focus on each other.
I will save further advice for another post, or you can check out my e-book, which will be launching at the back end of Spring!
I really hope this has been helpful and if any of you have any questions, please drop me an email and I will try to help.
Philippa xx
Leap Year Proposals – Thinking of Proposing Ladies?

Leap Year Proposals – Thinking of Proposing Ladies?

It’s the end of January – THIS CALLS FOR A CELEBRATION! Dry January is over, Christmas is just that bit more of a distant memory and its one month closer to summer. Hello February! 🙂
Now, what I love about February 2016, is that it’s going to be a leap year…. What does that mean? It’s the one day where woman can propose!
Have you heard of that before? If you haven’t, then you hear correctly! Yes, as bizarre as it may sound, February 29th is the traditional day that woman can propose to men.

 Image via http://www.leapyearday.com/content/weddings
Now of course, many would say that a woman can propose whenever she wants – very true of course but I do believe that the majority of women love the idea of being proposed to – its tradition. In fact, it’s the one tradition in the beautiful world of weddings that has stood the test of time.
Lots of people like to do things a bit differently on their wedding day, but I have to say, I am yet to meet/know a bride and groom where a traditional proposal of some sort hasn’t happened. Women love the romance and the surprise that comes with a proposal, and I think many would never dream of being the one to propose.
I get it – I felt exactly the same! I was with James, my husband for 7 years before he popped the question. I was completely ready and hoping for a proposal at least 2 years prior, but the thought of me being the one to propose just because I really wanted him to, never once came to mind. It was certainly not for me but I have heard of stories where women have, and good for them!
I have been reading up on this topic recently, and if you are thinking of proposing, the one thing that has come up a lot is to make sure you are confident of the answer. If you know your partner doesn’t want to get married then proposing may backfire; pushing someone into something is never a good outcome. If it is something both of you are definitely moving towards naturally, then why not?! GO FOR IT! It’s all about confidence and preparation in advance will help ease any nerves you may have.
Something I found on match.com was this little nugget of history behind the tradition:
“First, the history: it is believed that the tradition for Leap Year proposals dates back to 5th century Ireland and ‘St Bridget’s Complaint’. The aforementioned Bridget is said to have been rather miffed at the length of time women had to wait for a man to ask for their hand in marriage. Upon debating this with St Patrick, he told her that women could from then on propose on the leap year. The first documented instance of women proposing on February 29th is in 13th century Scotland, where a law was passed that decreed that any man refusing a proposal on the leap year must pay a fine, which could range from a kiss, right through to a silk dress or, most commonly, a pair of gloves.”
What’s my opinion on this? I personally, would never have proposed as I mentioned earlier. I am a true romantic and always dreamed of how I may be proposed to, and just couldn’t imagine it any other way. I’m not saying that I think women proposing to their partner is wrong at all, I think its really fresh and can completely see how for some couples this would work beautifully.
How about you? What are your thoughts on proposing to your boyfriend?
Thinking of taking the plunge this Feb 29th – I’d LOVE to hear about it 🙂
Philippa xxx