What is Love?

What is Love?

What is love?! Well I know that love conquers all! And it REALLY does. I’m talking about real love, the love that gets you giddy, the love that makes you feel like you could do anything, the love that feels so deep from within its hard to describe how it feels, the love that makes you smile when you think about it, the love that calms you, the love that is appreciation, the love that is a strong companionship. The love that is so strong and so dependable that you sometimes forget it’s there.

The reason for this post is because I had a really in depth chat about marriage and love with one of my closets friends, Jaina, at the weekend – we had a long 3 hour drive to Emmy & Jake’s wedding!
We both think that, particularly with our generation (and the one above), that people give up too easily. People don’t have willpower in relationships and marriage. People have the wrong perception as to ‘what love is’, but mainly how to recognise that love changes and can come in many different forms. If it doesn’t feel like a 24/7 fairytale, then lots of people tend to give up.
Jaina’s parents had an arranged marriage; they only met a few of months before for their wedding day. After many many years, they are still together and still happily married. They grew in love, had two children and their love has built an incredibly strong foundation for a really close family unit.

The love you feel in the beginning of your relationship will be incredibly different to the love you feel five years into your relationship or marriage. I think people mistake the ‘giddy butterfly feeling’ as what love will always be like. I think this is the beginning of love, but real love goes so much deeper, and you have to nurture it and understand it to remember that it is there as it will change and evolve as you change and evolve as a person. It’s not like a fairy tale 30 years in, even if people on the outside view it in this way.
Our lives are so busy that we don’t notice love when it is all around us. Sometimes it takes a big gesture to remind us how much we love that person. For me, my small reminders of how much I love my husband, are in the morning, when a tea arrives by my bedside without fail. An out of the blue hug. When he stands up for me or looks after me when I’m sad – this doesn’t happen often as we lead a relatively drama and negative-free life, but sometimes, when things get really tough, he will always be there for me.
I went to my friend Emmy’s wedding last Saturday. Emmy, who is suffering from a rare form of thyroid cancer, and who has found this deep and true form of love in Jake. He is there for her, making her happy through the toughest of times, being her rock and helping her live her life to the very full. Their love really does conquer all and it’s the most beautiful love I’ve seen as they manage to show this deep love on the outside and not just on the inside.

Of course, everyone will have a certain idea or opinion on ‘what love is’, but I’d like to propose this…
The feelings of ‘love’ start like you see in a movie… It’s exciting, it’s nerve racking, it’s heartbreaking.
Love then evolves, changes and deepens as its tested through difficult decisions, busy lives and peoples questioning on ‘if it really is love?!’
if you make it through this stage, the love you are left with is in its purest and most deepest form. The type of love that really can stand the test of time and can conquer all. A strong foundation. A strong companionship. A strong bond. Don’t ignore this love or mistake it for not being ‘love like it used to be/feel’ and NEVER give up on love, for love does conquer all.
Just a small thought this Friday 😉

Want to Learn Calligraphy in London?

Want to Learn Calligraphy in London?

So last weekend, I attended such a brilliant workshop that I wanted to share it with you. After not writing or sharing anything in such a long time I think posting this is the best way to get back into the swing of things.
SO – this workshop taught me a new skill that I’ve been desperate to learn for such a long time, and that skill is beautiful handwritten calligraphy.
The workshop was run by the lovely Lauren of Oh Wonder Calligraphy, held at The Ritzy in Brixton. The session was for beginners but it was informative enough for us newbies of calligraphy and also such great fun.

We started with the basics, understanding the nibs and how to prep your pen, right through to practicing the alphabet. She even provided us with our first set of tools that we got to take away with us.
I got a little ahead of myself and began practicing words during the workshop – harder then you think because I was so focused on copying the letter style that I completely forgot how to spell on numerous occasions!! Oops!
However, as much as I need to practise, this new skill has already come in handy as I’ve been writing labels for prints for my lovely brides, here’s one I did this week 🙂

The course is great for anyone who fancies learning a new creative skill, perhaps you’re a wedding supplier like me or you’re getting married and want to write beautiful calligraphy name places for your guests.
I know Lauren plans to do another workshop soon, this time with bottomless brunch and cocktails… Did you say cocktails? AND brunch?? Where can I get my ticket?! To be the first to hear about her next workshop dates you should visit her website to keep an eye out for her Autumn dates. She also runs 1to1 sessions so if you simply cannot wait then definitely drop her an email: ohwondercalligraphy@gmail.com
For now, I’ll leave you with some images from the workshop that I took for her.
Enjoy! Philippa xxx
(Flowers for the day were provided by the lovely Catherine Short Floral Design)